I guess some things have happened since I last posted.
I had my embryo transfer on January 20. The same day that my husband had organised his mate’s stag party as best man. “Don’t worry sweetie, I can do this on my own and I don’t want you to feel guilty for not coming along,” is what I told him. And it was completely honest. I had been through it before and I knew what to expect. I knew he would much rather be with me, but it was ok that he wasn’t.
I dropped my son off at a friend’s house and drove to the clinic. I was early, so I sat in the car and tried to distract myself. I played upbeat rock songs to sort of hype myself up, and ended up trying to fight back anxious tears. I remember reading an article which suggested that women who went into an embryo transfer feeling more upbeat and positive tended to have more success. So I watched some videos of people doing stupid stuff. And then I went in.
Everything was familiar and went fine. My bladder felt like bursting, as usual. They showed me an image of the little embryo and told me everything looked great, as usual. They told me the transfer was a success, as usual. I didn’t hold any unrealistic expectations, but it felt positive.
Soon after, we went on holiday for nearly a week. It was hot, super hot. At a friend’s wedding we sat in the open in 35C heat and baked for half an hour as we waited for her to come down the aisle. Sweat trickled down the back of my legs. I hoped that this wouldn’t end our hopes of the embryo sticking. I grabbed water after water after water.
As the holiday wore on, I wondered more and more about any “symptoms” I was feeling. It didn’t seem like much was happening. I felt a bit dizzy and nauseous a few times, but it was so hot why wouldn’t I? My boobs felt a bit sore… but I had been squeezing them to check that I’d probably made them sore myself! I was feeling fairly flat about the situation. I didn’t feel pregnant.
We arrived back home on a Monday night. On the Tuesday morning I was scheduled in for a blood test and a phone call from the clinic to tell me “the news” – was I pregnant? I had a pregnancy test sitting in my drawer beside my bed. I knew that if I was pregnant, it would tell me. So I decided that it was better to find out now, good or bad, rather than receiving the news at my open plan desk.
The result came up immediately. Holy shit. I was pregnant. If everything worked out the due date would be 9 October. Here we go again.